Is a "Little" Spanking OK?

Hi Kathy,

I’m Ellen (not my real name).  I am a single mother, and I have 5 year old twin boys.  I love them to pieces, but they can be a real handful. When they really misbehave, by hitting and kicking each other, I spank them sometimes.  And it works! They stop their fight and maybe just cry for a minute or go to their room. Even though it works, I feel embarrassed about it, because I’m pretty sure that most of my friends would think it’s terrible.

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What Is This “Inner Compass” Thing? (The Difference between Good Habits and Internal Motivation)

Hi Kathy,

My name is Madeleine. I have an 8 year old and a 5 year old.  I saw you mention the idea of an “inner compass” in an earlier post, and I’m curious about that.  It seems to me that our job as parents is to help our children develop good habits, like sleeping at regular times, eating healthy food, getting their homework done, taking care of chores, etc.  But I also see that when I tell my kids what to do and they don’t want to do it, we fight. 

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I'm Not The Maid (How To Get Your Family To Participate?)

Dear Kathy, 

My name is Elizabeth. I am married and I have a 11 year old boy and 9 year old girl. I work full time and come home and feel like I'm at work all over again. My husband is very supportive and engaged but I'm still the one doing most of the organizing, planning, and worrying for the children's health, social life, school obligations, etc.  And then there's the cooking and cleaning and everything else. Overall, I don’t mind it but then the children complain and I get SO angry.

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She Won't Wear Her Coat (How Do I Get My Kid To Cooperate?)

Hi Kathy, my name is Sophie. I'm the mom of an almost two year old girl, Marie, who is VERY willful. I feel like I’m always trying to get her to do something! Every day we’re locked in battle. I’ve tried a lot of strategies but nothing seems to really work. As an example, this past winter, she would refuse to put her coat on before leaving the house. We live Upstate NY and it’s VERY cold.

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